In the western side of this planet, life has become very complex over the last century. Just a few decades ago life was pretty much reduced to survival. Access to education, basic security, and livelihood security was an affordable luxury only for some citizens. In today’s world, we have so many options and opportunities that we often get overwhelmed and end up achieving a little percentage of what is our actual potential. ‘Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakes’ said Carl Jung. There’s so much more you can get out of life when you get to know yourself and become aware of your inner resources. This article aims to inspire you to take action to achieve your maximum potential in anything you desire. It can be applied to your fitness goals (maybe to the New Year resolutions plan), professional life or any other area of self-development. Here are 4 steps to implement for those who are ready to go from dreamer to planner, to eventually become an achiever.
1. The idea
Often we don’t move forward because we fear to move in the wrong direction, we don’t have a clear picture of what exactly we want. Or perhaps we know it but haven’t set specific goals or the main drive behind. For example, you may want to lose weight but that’s not going to be inspiring or motivating enough. Think of the reason why you think losing weight will make your life better. It could be to boost your self-confidence and feel entirely confident with your sex appeal, have more energy to spend more time with your family, etc. When you think about the idea think about the why. Don’t tell yourself ‘I need to lose weight’, instead come back to the why and use present simple or present continuous ‘I’m getting fitter!’. Set your mindset for this moment and start taking action from now. How we speak to ourselves is essential. Also, make sure you are not stuck because of fear of failure. Then you should define specific goals and make sure you can measure at least some of them to later on finding ways to hit those specific targets. Waiting for the right moment is a waste of energy and detrimental to self-motivation, it simply leads to frustration and failure. Only if you take the risk and try you will be able to see how far you can reach. And often as we explore, we discover new aspects of ourselves and we grow stronger with that knowledge. As soon as you have defined the idea and goals, check in and see if your inner world is in line with them. Here I am referring to that self-talk which roots in beliefs about yourself, others and life. Is your inner garden letting the flower blossom? If not, get rid of the bad weeds! Boost your self-belief and inner power by making sure you exercise on a regular basis and that you push yourself pretty hard. It’s the best self-investment and arms you with confidence, increases your performance and has a positive impact in all areas of your life.
2. The Plan
Now that you have the clear picture of the idea, sit down and ask yourself where do you want to see yourself in 5 years, write some notes down. Do the same with 3 years and with 1 year. If you are unable to picture your life in 5 years time you can simply do 3 years / 1 year / 6 months. Or even starting with the latter two terms is better than nothing. This is your long, medium and short-term plan. Now you just have to figure out how to complete it. Whenever the expertise or amount of energy involved in designing this plan is out of your scope, find professional help. Successful or strong people don’t have the need of proving their self-worth by doing everything by themselves. They keep their energy for what they really know about and need their focus on. You can only expand helping others as you get help too. That’s how we all got here, via cooperation. As with the goals, set some figures and be as specific as you can. Break it down into actions and set dates for it. If you can’t do this in one go, set days to set more actions and dates another day. Remember this, you will become what you plan or don’t plan to be.
3. The execution
As you move forward you will learn more about yourself, about your limits and capabilities. You will also have to be flexible and adjust as required, flowing with life. Avoid putting off things, as that will undermine your own self-belief and willpower. However, do not beat yourself because sometimes things don’t happen just as planned. This is part of life and always a good lesson for our ego. Afterwards, what’s important is to keep moving forward. Do not get stuck because one day you did not follow the plan. This is one of the most common reasons why people fail, especially when it comes to lose weight or get fit. They skip their training/diet one day or two or a few, and they stop seeing the right moment to get back on track. The trick, again, do not wait for the right moment. Just get back into it. The only meaningful moment in life is always the same: now. Push yourself! You won’t feel like following the plan every day, but I promise that if you do so, your future self will thank you forever and your life may take an absolutely different direction leading you to the most exciting destinations. When you educate yourself to thrive every day (not just survive), there are no limits.
4. The success
Now that you have looked in, I would like to invite you to think about your lifestyle and surroundings and question if those are supporting the idea, your plan, your way to success. If not, is not about removing from your life anyone who’s not supporting those goals, as this is not always possible (although when possible, the best option) but thinking strategically and play with the factors. For example, when it comes to fitness goals, if you work in finances or business, you are probably going to have to go out for dinner for potential deals. It’s unavoidable, right? However, you can try to schedule those encounters as a lunch, in which people tend to drink less alcohol. You could even choose breakfast/brunch instead or even walking meetings, (when the weather allows you to) which is becoming more trendy. The same applies to people. Try to spend more time with those who directly or indirectly will lead you to success. Don’t give yourself poor excuses, most of the times there are ways and some level of choice. The one who has to be determined to take the step is you, then you will find ways to make things work, little by little, one step at a time.
Success is a big world that can be defined in many different ways. I think success is working on achieving your highest potential in all areas of life that are important to you. To me, this involves physical, mental and emotional health, career, relationships, environment and society care (I am a bit of an ecologist and philanthropic). That’s a lot of work! But I’m sure it’s somehow not too different to most of my other goals. We are all humans! What’s important is not how demanding this may be but how committed you are and having an executing plan. You can’t just expect that ‘doing as much as you can whenever you remember or have the chance’ will lead to big results. As R. Vaden said ‘success is never owned. It is only rented, and the rent is due every day.
Keep always a mindful attitude, be the witness of your inner and outer world to see if it is aligned with the life you want. Flow with life but don’t let life to blow your goals away. Find the right balance. Are you creating your life or is your life creating you?